Meditation: Calm, Daily Calm: Flow Length: 10 minutes Where: Office/Guest Room, Los Angeles How It Felt: Inspiring
Yesterday I opened the Calm app with full intentions of doing the next session in the “Relationship with Self” series (I’ll finish that bugger some day!), but was immediately drawn to the “Daily Calm” which was titled “Flow.”
We went to a party last weekend and my beautiful friend Theresa brought up the concept of getting in your flow, but helping it along as well. My husband and I have been talking a lot about this since. I am a huge believer that when we are on our right “frequency” or “path” or whatever you want to call it, things become very easy. One thing leads to the next leads to the next. We attract the people and skills and money and whatever else we may need to manifest our visions. We suddenly become very creative. Things just… work out.
However, I also believe you have to help yourself step into that flow. If you hold on to the sides of the river, too afraid to leave the shore, you can’t get into the path of the current. If you get into it but then think you know better and start paddling a different direction, it doesn’t work. Staying in the flow requires a certain amount of trust- most of all, a large amount of trust in yourself. It means you believe in your vision and your instincts, and you believe you’re headed the right direction.
I know a lot of people who bail when things feel too easy. I used to be one of them. I thought if I wasn’t struggling, it wasn’t “real.” I thought if I wasn’t completely burnt out and stressed, I wasn’t doing enough. I thought if people suddenly appeared to help me get closer to my goals, I should be suspicious of their motivations.
Then I read something a friend posted on Facebook one day. I had already started questioning this way of thinking, since I was learning about The Secret and the Law of Attraction, and had started to experience it working in my own life. I understood on a deeper level though when I read this:
“There is no extra credit for suffering.”
I realized I was just trying to show the world I “deserved” all the good things I wanted because I was suffering for them. I didn’t really believe I was worthy just as I was. I thought if it felt easy, it wasn’t worth it. I believed I had to force my dreams into existence.
It’s not true though. Yes, do the work. You don’t want to come to an opportunity and not be prepared. Have vision, set goals, and be the best at what you do. Of course. This is how you get yourself into that flow and stay there.
But what I’ve learned time and time again is that when everything is magically aligning, that’s a good sign. These are the things that work out. This is when you’re aligned with your purpose and in your flow. You’re right where you are supposed to be.
Meditating on this felt great. Things are starting to happen in a powerful way right now, and it was nice to be reminded to trust the universe and to trust myself. I’m still “powering up” from that long hibernation, and, while I’m excited to work hard, I’m not interested in working harder than I need to just to prove something to myself or to others. I want to trust that if I just keep going, doing my best, showing up, and taking care of my mental and emotional health, then I’ll be right where I need to be.
We should fight to make things happen sometimes. We should fight for change. We should fight for human rights. We should fight for ideas we really believe in if people aren’t listening. We should fight for those we love, and we should fight for what we truly want.
However, if we are always fighting, then our lives are not in alignment. We need to look at the people around us, our support systems, our goals, and our self-worth, and assess why nothing feels easy. Where are we off? Do we really want to do the things we say we want to do? Are we surrounded by people who don’t want us to succeed? Are we living in the right place for our dreams to come true?
What can we adjust?
I know how hard things get for me- instantly- when I slip onto a crappy frequency, and I have to pay attention to that. You have two options in those moments: adjust your thinking, or adjust your environment. That’s about it. Often both. It’s like tuning a radio. (For young people, we used to have to actually adjust a dial to the right spot where we could hear the signal clearly! Ha.) You have to adjust, adjust, adjust until you clear the static and can hear your inner voice loud and clear.
AND GUESS WHAT HELPS WITH THAT?
Meditation ftw, guys. All day. I love it.
Flow away, friends!